Ever felt like you're simply going through the motions at work, totally disconnected from what you’re actually doing? Trust me, you're not the only one.

Back in 2018, I thought I'd hit my stride. I was thriving in a job I was skilled at, in an environment where I’d built a solid reputation. I had influence, led successful projects, and felt deeply connected to my role. But out of nowhere, I started losing steam. Fast forward a year and a half, and I hit a wall—I didn’t recognize myself or even know what I wanted from my career anymore. A shift in roles placed me in a tough environment, and I became unmotivated and disconnected from the mission that had once resonated so deeply.

If you’re a midlife mid-career woman, you might know the feeling. You start to feel undervalued, and motivation dips. This disconnection can stem from a lot of things: poor leadership, a lack of clarity from higher-ups, or even an unsupportive work culture. But here’s the truth that I’ve learned: it’s not just about those external factors. Yes, they play a role, but there’s also a whole range of internal factors—things within your control—that can impact how valued you feel. Let’s dive into both sides and uncover just how much power you have to flip the script.

The Two Sides of the Coin: External vs. Internal Factors

External Factors (Out of Your Control): 

Let’s face it, some things at work are just not in your hands. The culture of the company, the style of leadership, even the mission of the organization—these are all things that can affect how valued you feel. While these factors are outside your control, acknowledging their impact is the first step in understanding your work environment better.

Internal Factors (Within Your Control): 

Here’s where it gets interesting. Despite the external setbacks, there's a lot you can do internally to feel more connected and valued. It starts with a bit of self-exploration to pinpoint exactly what your strengths are and how you want to make an impact. This internal audit of your professional self is crucial in setting the stage for the next steps.

Taking Control: How to Feel Valued (Even Without a Promotion)

Understanding your own strengths, values, and the impact you wish to have is foundational. Tools and exercises in self-reflection can guide you in this introspection phase, helping you clarify your professional desires and how they align with your current role.

Showcasing Your Value: (Actionable Steps!)

1. Take Initiative:
   • Volunteer for a new project that taps into your strengths and interests. This not only shows initiative but also places you in a visible spot.
   • Suggest improvements in processes that could benefit your team or department, showcasing your problem-solving skills.
2. Become a Knowledge Sharer:
   • Offer to mentor a newer colleague in your area of expertise. This establishes you as a leader and a valuable team player.
   • Lead a team brainstorm session on a pressing issue, sharing your insights and solutions.
3. Network and Build Relationships:
   • Make connections with peers in other departments to widen your understanding of the business and uncover collaboration opportunities.
   • Find a mentor within the company who can provide guidance and push for your recognition.

Consider Alternative Paths to Advancement:

Chat with your manager about how you can better utilize your strengths in your current role or perhaps take the helm on a new project. These conversations could be your ticket to more fulfilling work without necessarily changing your job title.

If you’ve got a clear vision of what you want and still find no opportunities within your organization, then it might be time to consider a change. But first, you need to have those brave, honest talks with your leader. A supportive leader can help you connect the dots and find your path forward. On the flip side, if your leader isn’t encouraging, these conversations can reveal whether the only way up is to move on.

Control vs. Influence: Reframing Your Perspective

Understanding what you can’t control versus what you can influence can redefine how you view your job and your satisfaction within it. It’s important to understand where you focus your energy to make the biggest impact. By focusing on what you can change, you empower yourself to create opportunities for recognition and fulfillment, regardless of external circumstances. You have your circles of influence, concern, and control, and it’s important to understand each.

Conclusion

Ready to feel more valued at work? Start by scheduling some time for self-reflection, reaching out for a chat with a colleague, or discussing your career path with your manager, or working with a professional coach. It's all about taking those first steps towards empowering yourself in your career. Remember, you've got more control than you might think to shape your professional journey and feel appreciated along the way.